Monthly Archives: November 2010
by William Jackson, M.Ed.
We are in difficult times, spiritually, economically, environmentally and politically. As men we should be taking the lead in continuing the direction we need to move in to caring for our loved ones our communities and supporting our churches. Here are some suggestions to facilitate us all to stay on the right path.
Fathers, should go to Jesus in prayer and pray with their children and families. Leading prayer as the leader of the household.
Fathers, make mistakes, but own up to them and correct the mistakes they have made. Working not to repeat them.
Fathers, discipline their children with love and not with physical violence, verbal degradation or emotional manipulation.
Fathers, take their children to church and bible study to share the Word of God.
Fathers, are not perfect so they must ask God for wisdom, direction and discernment.
Fathers, don’t blame others for their weakness, but work to strengthen themselves in the Word of God.
Fathers, will not “follow the guys” when they are disrespecting women, this sets an inappropriate and dangerous model for their sons to follow.
Fathers, don’t block their children’s anointing with ungodly actions.
Fathers, ask for discernment to recognize the signs of trouble before they happen.
Fathers, model respect for the church and church representatives.
Fathers, lead grace at meal time and anoint their children with oil for protection and mercy.
Fathers, can purchase their daughters personal items and be proud in doing so.
Fathers, promote education in the household.
Fathers, talk to their children about drugs and sex before the street does.
Fathers, do not whine about what “HIS” daddy did not do for him, but follow a model indicative of Godly men.
Fathers, do not blame where he came from for his short-comings. He focuses on where he is going.
Fathers, takes time to visit their children’s school and talk to the teachers about their children’s progress.
Fathers, will happily sacrifice for their family.
Fathers, accepts responsibility for their children’s actions. Remembering that the apple does not fall far from the tree.
Fathers, will go visit their children and spend time with them even though he may not be present in the home. Taking responsibility for a life that they helped create.
Fathers, aren’t afraid to show love to their children, children still need reinforcement that they are loved and respected.
Fathers, spend time just being together with their children and doing things their children like and will remember, not just buying things that will be forgotten.
Fathers, teach your child to be responsible and accountable for their actions.
Fathers must model and teach respect, honor, patience, ethics and fear of the Lord.
Quote: A truly humble man is sensible of his natural distance from God; of his dependence on Him; of the insufficiency of his own power and wisdom; and that it is by God’s power that he is upheld and provided for, and that he needs God’s wisdom to lead and guide him, and His might to enable him to do what he ought to do for Him. Edwards, Jonathan
William Jackson, M.Ed. William_j@e3businessgroup.org
by Nikkia “Kia” Ganey
Wow…my first blog, how exciting. My Boss and host of Life Full Circle Radio has been getting on my case for weeks now about not doing a blog and I am so happy I finally got around to it.
Three weeks ago Miguel and I discussed some of the reasons why Black women are having a hard time getting married and why some women are going the route of skipping marriage and just having kids. Sadly the show did not air, but I wanted to put my thoughts out there because this is a subject that is near and dear to my soul since I am a Black Women with a lot of single female friends and family members. As women it’s hard to be in the dating scene dating scrub after scrub, but still saying in our head keep hope alive, but sometimes the reasons why we are alone is because our expectations and requirements are out of whack.
As women, we all have a list of expectations for the man we plan on marrying (keep in mind I said marrying, for those of you who are just interested in kickin’ it or just having fun, this blog is not for you), but sometimes that list is unrealistic, especially in the black community. No offense to Black men, but there are not a ton of rich, gorgeous, faithful, God filled black men without a baby’s momma or a conviction record (federal, felony or misdemeanor). As Black women we want to marry successful Black men who will want to take care of us and the family that is created, but putting Black men making over six figures or an athlete as a first requirement is a real crappy way to start a list because you will end up 50 years old, alone with cats and asking God why he didn’t send you the man you asked for. Start your list off with the absolute necessity that you know you cannot live without. For me, A Faithful Bible believing Christian man is the first thing on my list and then the other items are ranked by importance. An example of my list: Attractive with a nice body, family man, successful or driving towards success…etc. Try to have less than 10 items on your list. Honestly, you should have 5 or less items. But for you control freaks 10 is fine, however it limits your pool of great men.
NOTE: If you are working at Burger King, living with four roommates in a two bedroom apartment and you have a credit score of 335, it is insane for you to ask for a doctor or lawyer living in a mansion. Line your expectations and requirements with what you are bringing to the table. No offense to anyone, but I am trying to keep it real.
This is the most important point I can make, if you find a man that meets your requirements, do not make that man jump through 5 or 6 more hoops to be with you. A lot of Black woman make this mistake when we get a good man who meets our requirements. When we start talking to him about what we are looking for in a man and a relationship, the list goes from simple to complicated. No man wants to go through an SAT type exam to get a woman. My advice, once the guy makes it to the date, Relax, and put the list and requirements back in your purse . A lot of Black women loss great black men because jumping through hoops just wasn’t worth it to them.
If you plan on ignoring me and keeping your 60 requirements for a man, then you could be setting yourself up for failure. Hey, cats make good companions. I am not an expert on men, but I am woman who tossed her list to the side, stopped looking and found a great Christian man.
Nikkia “Kia” Ganey
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Tonights show on Life full circle -The importance of Home-Based businesses, Taxes, and Youth Ministry
by Miguel Lloyd
On this weeks show we will talk the importance of the RIGHT home-based business and how it can be key in your personal development. We will also talk about how that business can help your tax bracket.
We will also talk todays youth and the influences that are causing them to not be ready for the world as it is today. Our guests will include Life Coach, Speaker and Entrepreneur, Nate Scott and youth Pastor of Faith Christian Center, Jacksonville, FL Brandon Davis.
This show will be fun and enlightening! Please listen and tell a friend!
by Miguel Lloyd
I’m going to do my best to keep this one short and sweet.
Back in mid-summer, I was away with the youth of our church on our summer retreat. Well, as rewarding as it was, it was work. You see we don’t have a small church that we could fit all of our youth on a small church van. Our caravan was, I believe three of those party buses that some of you guys like to take on those Atlantic City gambling day trips. I believe we had close to 180 teenagers that we had to supervise during that trip.
Well in order to pull that off it took a small army of adult volunteers to keep the kids safe, sound and “covered”. Although we didn’t have a lot of extra time, we did find time to fellowship a bit. During one of those times, I was talking with one of my fellow youth leaders, Norinzo Carl Haynes. He had this vision of an event where young Christians could have a fun social outlet. Somewhere, besides “church” where they could go and just relax. What came out of that is Soulboxx Cafe’. A series of events that have showcased an array of local poets and artists in and around the Jacksonville area. He has also had Leon Timbo perform as a headliner in the recent past. For some of my DMV folks, imagine Fuzzy Wednesdays, just a little more “sanctified”.
Well tonight I got “introduced” to LIsa McClendon. Some of my church folk, just gasped. “What do you mean. ‘Got introduced?’” Some of my non-church folks are like “Who?” Thats the beauty of this site and this movement. My goal is to bridge these type of gaps.
It is a introduction for me because when I got saved, for a while i turned off all “secular” music. For a lot of you who know me, you’re probably thinking that was tough. Not really. Something about BBD’s Poison just didn’t feel right in my spirit any longer. What happned was I had to relearn what I loved to listen to. The last 5+ years, its been a lot of Kirk, Mary Mary, and Fred Hammond. But it has also been a lot of artists that were no where near my radar like Kari Jobe (google her. She has a great song called “Revelation Song”).
During that transition, I missed something. There is a whole genre of Christian Music that is not that far rhythmically from what I loved. Canton Jones, Deitrick Haddon, Tye Tribbett, Dave Hollister, and Ki Ki Sheard are just a few artist that you can still bump in your ride. One of the leaders in that space is Lisa McClendon.
Saved and sanctified family, please forgive me for this remedial moment, but I have to get my other family up to speed. Imagine a soulful mix of L-Boogie and Ledisi, with an eclectic fashion style of India Irie with the stage presence of Jill Scott and there you have Lisa McClendon. This girl was great as a performer as she “ministered” in song and dialogue to the audience. She of course performed some of her more familiar tunes like Pause and Thank You (familiar to most in the room but me. But I’m on it now!). She also performed her new single El Shaddai. A great worship song made famous by Amy Gant. In the midst of that she managed to bless us with a serenade to her husband, as she chastised the married folks in the room for trying to procreate to Fred Hammond or her classic You Are Holy. There is just something inappropriate about “loving” to the The Best of Me by Marvin Sapp. It was a great song that AS SOON as it is available married folks need to scoop that up. What’s the name of the song? Good question. The theme of the song was centered around Christmas night, once all the family leaves and its time for some quality time. It will be on her soon to be released Christmas album. As soon as I get the correct title, I’ll post it.
In the meantime, if you’re using the excuse that you aren’t ready to get “saved” because you think being a Christian is boring, sisters like Lisa McClendon are squashing that rationale.
We are going to talk today about today’s elections. During this show we are going to talk about Blacks and the Republican party. Do you know why Blacks largely vote down Democratic tickets in lock step? Do you realize that is a big reason why we are marginalized and ignored. I’ve written a blog on this subject here. Consider this show a companion piece to that blog! Enjoy the show! Be sure to go to Facebook and Twitter to tell a friend about us!